Tocophobia
About Sexual Aversion, Sexual Phobia and Fear of Sex
Some people experience intense anxiety — even panic — at the thought of any sexual interaction. Others feel fear, terror, or disgust about a specific kind of activity, such as sexual intercourse or contact with genitals. While some of these people enjoy hugging, kissing, and similar touching, others find that their feelings of revulsion or anxiety extend to all physically intimate contact.
For men and women who were sexually abused, raped or otherwise traumatized, fear or disgust may be an understandable reaction to being violated and hurt. At the same time, they may now want to create a healthy relationship, including sex with someone they care for. Their continued sense of anxiety, along with their desire to be close to their partner, can be confusing and frustrating for both.
Others who are fearful or averse to sex have no history of trauma, but may have learned negative sexual attitudes, heard scary stories, or have frightening images relating to sex. These fears may intrude and prevent them from enjoying a healthy sexual relationship.
Diagnosis and Treatment of Sexual Aversion, Sexual Phobia and Fear
The diagnosis of sexual aversion is made by a health care professional when someone describes avoiding genital sexual contact with his or her partner because of disgust, queasiness, fear or shame. Some people with severe aversion may experience panic attacks with faintness, breathing difficulties or dizziness and feelings of terror.The sex therapist works with each person who is averse to sex in an individualized manner, beginning with a discussion of his or her personal and sexual history. Treatment includes setting goals and doing at-home exercises individually and, when appropriate, with their partner. Clients move at their own pace, staying in control, and taking as much time as needed to become comfortable and reach their own goals.